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HIS MIND TO REST
FOUND OUR TGIRL WEBSITE
BE LOOKING FOR THAT TGIRL
I'm male, in my 40s, divorced and work as an engineer. I have always been attracted to the idea of a transgendered person even though I didn't have a clue what that meant or was. I'm not talking sexually, but more on a spiritual/romantic level.
I found your website awhile back, read everything and it all made sense on an intuitive level. I couldn't believe what I had felt was really the way it was!
The question that remained for me was, am I really an admirer and just couldn't admit it to myself, or maybe it was a latent sexual "thing," which didn't make sense because I'm straight. I took your advice and arranged a date with an escort. Don't get me wrong, I have NEVER done this before and won't ever again, but it did confirm the way I felt.
She was a kind, sensitive person. We talked for hours"off the clock" and even went out on a date holding hands and talking. I was not attracted to her remaining male part at all, but instead found her beautiful much like a flower that is beginning to bloom but yet has always been beautiful because she is a flower. She doesn't want to leave the business she is in, which pretty much precludes any type of relationship for me.
Thank you for your website and wish me luck in finding that special person I hope to finally meet and spend my life with.
SEEKS TGIRL FOR RELATIONSHIP
I got your name and email addy off of a site on Google about Tgirls. I am a female but I love Tgirls. I only date and have relationships with Tgirls, and I need to know of sites I can go to meet a female and hopefully become friends with, and maybe more. I am serious, I am not a man playing games. I am a real woman who has a hard time finding the type of women I date. It is very hard to meet women of this caliber. I am 32 and I hope that you can help me find what I am looking for, my email is above and I hope whether or not you can help me that you will respond back, thank you.
TGIRL SAYS THANKS
It was my pleasure to come across this beautiful site, TSGirlfriend, and also your contributions. I really appreciate you for spending your time on this subject. It was great to read your article. I just thought of taking this opportunity to thank you for your nice understanding about us transgendered women.
Before closing, just would like to brief you about me. I am an Indian Tgirl, age 26.
TGIRL'S THANK YOU
SHOULD WAIT A BIT BEFORE TELLING
Forgive my spelling, I am Danish speaking.
By coincidence, I came by your website which I liked at lot. It is serious, informative and interesting. I am no admirer or bicurious male, and I do not know much about the realities of life from your and other TGs' perspectives. I guess it isn't fun and sunshine all the time. But anyway, I think that you generalize and judge men rather harshly in your article.
True, there are morons all over the world. To be honest, I've met a lot of women who I think were fools, impolite, dumb, and who had a bad attitude. My ex-wife cheated on me and tried to rob me blind in the process when we split up.
Anyway, my personal expriences don't make me rationalize that all women would be like that. I've just been unlucky, nothing more and nothing less, and have to be more careful.
Maybe the situation for a fully transsexual woman is more difficult. To be honest, if I, by coincidence, met a post-op Tgirl, I don't think that I would notice that she once had been a man. How could I, if she behaved, looked and felt like a woman? Then she is, in my perspective, a woman like every other woman I've met.
Who I am I to tell her she is not? Would I become impolite if I found out? No. Would I become impolite if I met a normal Tgirl? No. Why? Because I guess that we do not always decide what kind of sexuality we might have. Not all males are sexist, male chauvinist bozos. I guess if I met a Tgirl in a bar or whatever and she started talking to me, I would be polite if she were the same. Why shouldn't I? If people are nice to me, I am the same to them.
I guess at lot of other regular guys would see it the same way. Maybe some of the girls go to directly to the subject. If it happened to me, I would be insecure on the following grounds:
1. I dont know much about the subject and definitions, what does it really mean?
2. You're having a drink and chatting up a woman who suddenly tells you she was once a man. Gosh, jeez, uh-oh. Well, that's.... Ummm, see you later.
I guess that I would accept it IF we had met a couple of times for a drink and socialized, and she tells me in a quiet moment. Why? Because I have experienced her personality and behavior. If she behaves, acts and look as a woman, she will still be one in my eyes after she tells me. Maybe a lot of other regular guys would see it the same way. Anyway, I guess the situation never will arise, maybe because there aren't any Tgirls in Denmark. Never seen one.
Remember, not all guys are fools with prejudices, maybe your friends should try clubbing at some other places. Good luck.
--A male Dane in Greenland.
HARD IT MUST HAVE BEEN FOR TGIRLS BEFORE TSG
What a wonderful article. I can only imagine how difficult online life was for the women and the men sincerely interested in meeting them before you put this together. I can honestly say I have never returned to any other dating chatroom due to the jerks and bots. And I never knew if I was talking to an escort or a guy pretending to be a TG. It really is the only site where I know who is there and I've been very careful to go slow and let them know who I am. Seems to be working for me since a few of the women have PM'd me and had a sincere conversation (they say I seem like a really nice guy! Wow is that a difference from AOL!) Anyway, thanks for your diligent work, you and the old timers should be very proud of your work.
ON TGIRLS IS ACCURATE
These are, in my opinion, not only the constructs of love, but of any caring relationship. My interest in Tgirls comes, to some extent, from the fact that I am a variation of intersexed. I like GG's, I am interested in males, as a woman. I know a number of Tgirls and perhaps it is there that I will find the one who takes my heart. To find one who knows your heart, that is what I seek. What resides between the legs pales to insignificance. It seems more and more that perhaps, it takes one to know one. That seems sadly limiting with over six billion souls on this earth. And so I, as so many, query, "Where is the one who will accept all that is me and treat me as an equal?"
Thank you for your perspective, and for promulgating it.
MAN SEEKS NEW TGIRL
I am currently in a marriage with a post-op woman and we are getting a divorce. I feel she used me to get her surgery and then has moved on. That's neither here nor there. Sorry for that! But the connection we had was unreal. When we met, she was still genetically male and that intrigued me. I didn't think I could have those kinds of feelings for another human being, but I did! And now it's over and I would like to see if I could find that again.
The only thing I ask this time is to be able to choose the women that I may fall in love with this time. And my request isn't very hard to match. Someone small but athletic with blonde hair and blue eyes. The only thing is that she has to be a full time TS because of my job, and she also has to be very convincing as far as looks are concerned! In my line of work I cannot afford to be found out. And a non-smoker! My soon-to-be ex-wife picked up the habit of smoking after her surgery and I can't stand it!
I am a staight man and enjoy the company of an attractive and outgoing woman who is not afraid to pack a bag and disappear for a weekend without an inkling of what is going to happen. I am a very spur-of-the-moment kind of guy and I would like that in my future partner! If you think you can help I will welcome any information you can give me.
--Ruben, US Military, Korea.
ARE GIRLS TOO
I strongly disagree with you about the transgender people you call transvestites. Tgirls come in many shapes and forms.We are not all post-op or pre-op. Some are in a limbo for many reasons Marriage, business, friends, relatives, etc.
Please be kind to us. We are woman deep inside, too and want the same things as your pre-op Tgirls. Perhaps someone can explain it better than I . Take a closer look at some of your statements.
ABOUT A TGIRL
I have read the article on the above subject in detail. Let me introduce myself first. I'm a 23-year-old normal female married with no kids. My husband is not my type as he is rough and tough. I like females, but to be frank I don't like them physically either. I want to be held by a man who is soft yet tough with all the characteristics of a man.
so difficult to explain, but in India we are always polite and obedient
and dutiful wives. Financiallly, I'm extremely well to do but my physical
relationship is bad. In fact, I don't llike males at all now. Please advise,
should I enter your chatroom and make new friends? Waiting for your answer.
MANY COOL TGIRLS
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