TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us
Our TGirls Letters section is devoted to feedback we receive. The most recent letters appear at the top.
GG'S & MEN ALL HATE HIM
I’m in sort of a jam. I just want to understand my place in society. I'm coping with the knowledge that no one, not even a man, wants to be with me under any scenario. I try to reach out and ask people on dates, nothing. My approach is clean and I'm also quite appealing. I try to make 'em laugh at first or find something in common, I just get the cold shoulder later.
Or when I'm just walking or doing anything in public where I see a person checking me out, I go to them I try to talk to them and still...nothing. This applies to women, then all the three women in my life cheated on me. This one girl left me and took my son with her. All the women in my family despise me; they love me one minute and hate me the next, even grandma.. yikes!
I started pursuing TS women. I'm 25, I started looking at TS women and when I found them, they just gave me shallow and nasty remarks. That affected my insecurities further, but I didn't give up, I just had to further lower myself to shameful tactics to at least be with one, so I posted pictures on Craigslist, still nothing.
I used to weigh 425 lbs., I lost half my weight in a year and a half...all that trouble to still be rejected by women and TS women. So I pursued guys because I gave up on all women and so far it's stupider than I thought. In fact, it's worse and I don't like it.
I go to buddy booths in video shops when I really can't take it anymore. I always feel pathetic after I'm done, and I get even more empty inside. Not only that, I wouldn't know who sucked me off because they wont show their faces.
Please help me. I am asking you from your point of view, am I that bad? Am I that bad looking? I feel like I came a long way for literally absolutely nothing. Do you know any single TS women? LOL
I'd really would like
to know of places where I can meet single, honest TS women. Do you think
I should be a priest?
YOUR INTENTIONS TO YOUR T-GIRL
This is in response to the letter you received on January 2, 2011, and posted on the "T-Girls Letters Page."
The problem, I feel, is that there aren't too many young people actually looking for a long-term relationship. This saddens me beyond belief, as I am 24 years old and I know that there is virtually no one around my age willing to commit to a long-term relationship, and with a transsexual woman at that.
Furthermore, with some experiences, sometimes it's harder for younger T-girls to trust men if they have had bad experiences. Here's a personal experience for you: I was dating this guy (let's call him "Mickey," though that's not his real name). I genuinely fell for him and thought that I would wind up marrying this guy after a year or two dating.
We went to school on the same campus and we would walk together when he got off the light rail to his class across the campus. Then, after our date at the zoo, he stopped contacting me altogether. This broke my heart badly and I finally got a chance to talk with him a couple of months ago. He says that he wasn't (and isn't) looking for a relationship, that he just wanted something "casual."
While he didn't tell me whether he wanted a long-term relationship or something casual, he did respond to one of my ads. The ads I write tend to be geared and engineered to convey the message that I'm not looking for something casual but rather, long term. It is so vitally important that people communicate their needs and wants for the relationships that they are about to go into before they fall too deep. Take it from me, as this helped swing me into a huge depression and I got married (and a year later, divorced) for all the wrong reasons, simply due to the fact that I was severely depressed about my loneliness.
For some transwomen who have been similarly hurt and haven't had time to process it, this might impact on your ability to date them. Please remember to have patience, talk about what your needs are in pursuing this relationship with her and treat her right. Goddess knows I look forward to the day that I can find a man who will treat me right.
BY A ROOM MONITOR
I just signed up for your website and everything went smoothly until I joined the chat room and was kicked out. The Room Monitor kicked me out because my username was "frezhlove," meaning fresh love or new love. He or she told me that I must log out and change my username. I feel that I was not treated fairly. If you wish to have a good chat room, I would suggest finding out more about your moderators.
I'm Winnipeg Brandy a pre-op transsexual M-to-F I have just started HRT. I was wondering if there is any information on gay (lesbian) transsexuals. I have always preferred women and do not find that I am romantically or physically attracted to men. There are of course men who are attractive, but I am drawn to women.
Sometimes I find it hard to grasp my preference as a gay woman with my body being the way it is. I've always known that I was different, more woman than man and that my body was just not right. Still, I have spent 54 years tormented by the flesh that surrounds the true me. I love the chat room the ladies there are great, I only wish I had more time to chat.
Thanks for listening, and any suggestions you may have in regards to lesbian transsexuals.
HE FIND A NORMAL T-GIRL?
My name is Jay. I just found your article on the Net , great advice , excellent point to the community , an asset to T-girls.
I have been looking for a T-girl, to get married to and adopt kids, and have the real deal. I have been a straight guy all my life, but always have been attracted to T-girls. Most of them seem to be looking for a sugar daddy, some are hoes and some are working on men with low self esteem.
I am 36, good looking, great sense of reality, why can't I find I a normal T-girl? It seems like I am not dealing with full deck of cards.
Your assessment to the problem, please.
I've found a woman online, she directed me to this site. I have had a couple of bi experiences that in and of themselves weren't bad, just weren't completely for me.
I really like this girl...and even though it's thru the Net, after talking we have discovered that a lot of our interests and goals are alike! I know she's post-op but to me she's one of the friendliest, most attractive women I've ever met! I'd like to receive your email, not only to help in my personal understanding of T-girls in general. Thank you.
WALKED OUT ON A DINNER DATE
It has been a couple years since we last spoke in LA. I am always honored to see that you keep this site active and informative.
Over my business life, the economy has diminished much of my business, but I am still doing OK, and happy to still be me. On the other hand, for me to be me, it is still hard to find a date. I fall under the too tall category and I'm tired of being alone all the time. I cannot seem to find a date and the one person I met briefly had the nerve to ask me if I was into porn. I got up and walked out of dinner, never to call the schmuck again!
I was born in 1972, tall brown skin, statuesque, and still enjoy the beautiful things in life, art, museums, the theater, sitting on the beach, good conversation...blah, blah, blah. I do I apologize for I was not very social when we first met. I never trusted anyone, I was scared and not understanding who was, and what was!
But here I am years later, I am in the DC corridor for a year and would like to meet someone that has a sense of class and has purpose other than thinking T-girls are for porn. I cannot tolerate that. Maybe I can meet someone that would convince me to stay out East. But nothing is like my home on home on the West Coast.
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