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That sort-of answers my question, but calling me a "regular guy" is like going on a first date with a transgender supermodel/actress/opera singer and calling her a "tranny" all night. I've never been "regular," although I'm partial to "superlative" at this stage of my illustrious life.
Hi, my name is Nikku. I have some questions for you, if you don't mind, but I will have to explain myself first.
I'm 16 and I was told of the website by my psychiatrist. I'm a guy that was supposed to be a girl but right before I was born I apparently switched. I still look, sound, an, I've been told, think like a girl but I don't have any female privates.
I act like a guy half the time and a girl the other half. Heck, I even prefer dressing like a girl. I am attracted to girls like a guy should, but I find a small attraction to the male privates, but I'm not attracted to males.
I don't know if that's useless info for you but I have a few questions I believe you can answer. So here.
By the way, I did ask my doctor these questions and he wouldn't answer me, so then I asked my psychiatrist. She told me to come to this website, so I'm sorry if my age is too young for these questions or to be on the website. I promise I don't plan on signing up, I just need answers.
1: I don't fully understand my position, like, what am I? some people think I'm a "shemale" but I don't know.
2: I read the things on the site. I thought might explain what a TS is but I still don't understand that either.
3: A lot of times, I feel I'd rather be a girl and wish I could change it from a male's private to a female's. How does this work?
4: Following the last, my doctor has told me since I formed as a girl until the last minute, I have the insides of a female and I just grew a male private over the female part. Does that mean I could be impregnated if I did have it changed?
Thank you for your help.
Oh, I'm sorry, I thought you were in a relationship. Pity you're on the other side of the world, you sound like the perfect guy for a TS woman.
I am interested in pursuing a relationship with a TS who I met four years ago as an escort. I sought out an escort as my spouse no longer wanted to have sex due to an affair I had while we lived in Africa. She wanted a divorce, but we have three children and did not want to see them hurt by parents splitting, and so I agreed.
At the time, I did not know Tatiana was a TS but found out shortly after we met. We stayed in contact as text friends over the years and I've ridden the roller coaster ride of scorn with my wife ever since. Hence, I've been still. Working, parenting and reading my Bible have been my activities...and I now am to the point of letting go, and letting God determine my fate.
Tatiana has expressed an interest in me and, well, I'm attracted to her on many levels. Sexually is one level, she and I text a lot now on spiritual issues as well. I do not want to hurt my wife any more, so what do I do now?
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I have read your articles and I really enjoy them. I am a 33-year-old man who has a fiancee but has this sexual fantasy that turns me on so much. I respect and like transgender women very much, especially the ones that are more than passable.
I have gotten into dating websites but I haven't dated anyone because, of course, I am engaged, but I still think about it. I have thought about hiring a shemale escort but I really love my fiancee and I know it is just a fantasy I have. I know that if I were single, I would try but having a girlfriend really makes me think.
What do you suggest for me? I would really appreciate your advice. Thank you very much. I would love to hear from you.
About seven years ago, I met the man of my dreams. We had two children, and I was pregnant with the third when I discovered he had not only been surfing and chatting on TS websites, but had contacted many pre-op transgendered persons for "meet and greets."
A little history; I am an out-and-proud bisexual female, I have many LGBT friends, as well as straight friends, and have a rule about honesty and being true to oneself. So when I asked him about his infidelities (mostly because he had never mentioned any sort of interest before, and had been lying to me for almost five years), he became defensive and blamed my intolerance.
I sat down with him and informed him that I accepted who he is, and that he only ever needed to be honest with me, but some of the TS's he looks at are physically more attractive (i.e., very thin to the point of concern, and actually more of the shemale persuasion, as they specifically only had breast enhancements done for pornographic purposes).
I reminded him that I have battled with an eating disorder for years, and that it was already psychologically damaging that he had lied to me in the first place, but his interests made it worse.
I explained that going to pornographic sites and looking up the term shemale is completely the opposite of the desires of a transgendered person. I explained what some of my friends had gone through with their personal journeys and how difficult relationships were, and that TS's were not the same as shemales. I also explained why "shemale" is an insulting term, along with a few others.
After we talked, he had agreed that he would be more honest, and that he hadn't realized his interests were affecting my self image. He often says I am beautiful and everything he wants, and then he starts looking at porn again, oftentimes of people who are, again, stick thin. He has progressed to watching "straight" males (as they market the actors) performing sexual acts on the actress, as a form of subdom.
I just don't know how to let him know that I support his choices, but that he needs to be honest with himself, and me, and also be conscientious of the effects of his actions.
Am I crazy for questioning his orientation, assuming he may be bisexual in the slightest, or is he simply catering to that which he considers taboo? I am at a loss.
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