TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us
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A LTR WITH A TGIRL
How are you doing? My name is John. It has been a little over five years since I've been in a relationship. I would like to try to meet new people but my schedule is so busy with school and work so I thought I'd give this online dating thing another shot (didn't have a great experience with it last time).
First, I want to make it very clear that I am looking to meet someone that I can start to build a friendship and relationship with, which hopefully once I graduate in May, will go on to become a happy and committed long-term relationship. I was on your site and it seems to be one of the few good sites about transsexual dating.
I was reading your one article about chat room behavior and I was wondering if your site had a chat room for people to use or if not, do you know of any good websites that do? I'm looking for a chat room with respectful people, not just a bunch of creepos looking to fulfill a fantasy. If you don't know any good chat sites, are there any other good sites you can suggest?
I recently bought a membership and created a profile for tstvdates.com because it was supposed to be ranked the number one dating site for TS/TV/TG's but I still would like to have other options. Any REAL help you can give me would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks for you time and have a wonderful day.
THE SAME WANTS & NEEDS
I was not 100% sure exactly what I was looking for in a TS woman. I was told things about how it "has to be" or "must be like," but when I read your items, it sounds like they have the same real needs wants and desires as all people.
I wanted to meet someone unique, and the beauty of getting to know each other sounds like the biggest turn-on of all. I now also understand exactly the difference between the escort and the TS woman and know I want to spend time with the TS woman herself. Thank you for your guidance.
HOW TO PROCEED
WITH A TGIRL
I'm a 21-year-old black male in college. For a while now I have been turned on by transsexual women. It started when I stumbled upon a porn site with transsexual women three or four years ago.
I have had sex with a TS prostitute and it was a good experience. Honestly, I would have rather find a transsexual girl the right way instead of paying for sex with one. I'm finding that I want to date a transsexual girl and have relationship with her with emotions and mutual feelings.
I live in NY and I have put ads out on Craigslist but I haven't gotten any responses, except from prostitutes. I don't want to do that anymore. Also, the fact that I'm young makes it hard to find a transsexual girl around my age. I was wondering if you could give me some advice on how to proceed from here.
I have been in a relationship with this guy for almost two years now. I am a male-to-female pre-op, but definitely pass as a woman. We met on the Net on one of the dating sites. We have been together since then.
We are in a long-distance
relationship. He says it's his first time dating a Tgirl. At the moment
I am not really sure if he is just dating me for me or my looks as he
introduces me to everyone including his friends, family and colleagues,
which I expect and am grateful for.
He likes to say that he doesn't just love me because of my body. I think I am a bit reluctant with him because I am not sure whether I am being used as a lab rat to satisfy his curiosity. He hardly calls me but uses excuses always that he didn't buy air time or whatever.
What I find most annoying is receiving a free please-call message from a grown-ass man who is a practicing attorney. He has time to for everything else but is too lazy to buy airtime and call? Am I being played for a fool?
Yes, I can afford
to fly myself down to see him every once in a while and pay my way, but
I sometimes feel like I am being used as he expects me to call him --
HOW DOES ESTROGEN
AFFECT HER PENIS?
I am a 57-year-old male and I am seeing this pre-op Tgirl in my area and we have sex even though I am unable to get an erection. She has a functional penis and she likes it when I stroke it, lick it and suck it.
She really gets turned on when I lick her ear and neck and that is when her penis gets super hard and she cums, even though she says she wishes that her penis was not there. Should I continue having sex with her?
There are times when
she gets an erection when having sex then it goes soft before orgasm.
I'm wondering what would cause that. She is taking estrogen;
Your answers would be greatly appreciated.
I was recently reading your site and just wanted to say that I appreciate your intent, but perpetuating old myths and stereotypes that women are usually bottoms and want to be "taken" is really not useful for anyone. There are women, trans and otherwise, who like to be taken, but there are also plenty that will top the shit out of you.
I really hate when people in the trans community accidentally perpetuate the very norms and binaries that hold us and everyone back.
Thats all, thank you for reading this and I hope you consider it.
I have dated, and
will date, woman of all kinds. To me, transgender women ARE women.
FIX HIM UP
WITH A TGIRL
First and foremost, I must compliment you and say keep up the good work. I am a 48-year-old male who is very much attracted to TS's. I have had a one-night stand with a TS, but not a relationship. I must say, in my opinion, they outclass females.
I would appreciate it if you could help me. I would love to meet a TS, even post-op, for a long-term relationship and possibly marriage.
I had an ad online
to try and meet some new people, date, and see what happened. One of the
girls who contacted me happened to be transsexual. I was not looking for
that, nor have I even ever considered it. I'm a straight man, or at least
consider myself to be, so I was a bit conflicted, to say in the least.
My life has always been pretty black and white. She directed me to your
site to get some better information.
She really seemed
to appreciate the little things. She told me that she had never been out
on a real date with a guy before. I made sure to be the gentleman that
she has likely always wanted. We had dinner. I opened her doors. We cuddled
a bit in the movies. I gave her a kiss goodnight, and went home to my
house, by myself.
& SUCKING DICK
I have only been awakened to tranny love in the last three years, the lady that introduced me to this form of love has since then had the operation. We are still very good friends but I still want a relationship with a tranny with a penis. I make no bones about the fact that I love to suck a tranny's cock until she comes in my mouth and I swallow.
I have never done this to a gay guy. In fact, I cant think of anything worse. I just love trannies with dicks. To me, they are the sexiest people on the planet. They are women who have an extra attraction between their legs.
I am a member of a
number of prestigious organizations and I get a great deal of pride and
pleasure in having my tranny girl on my arm, and she has never let me
down yet. She knows my predilection for a tranny with a cock and has no
problem with my sucking tranny penis.
I have met a fantastic guy. And I am falling in love. I was born a woman and I am still a woman. His last long-term relationship was with a Tgirl. They met online, she explained her gender history, and they fell in love. It ended naturally, as some relationships do.
The biggest part of me thinks I have met an exceptional guy, someone who is accepting, realistic and true. We have a great time together. If anything, this is a "niggle" of my own mind. What does it matter?
But still, in the most insecure parts of me, I feel confused. Do I just let it be, accept it for what it was? He had a relationship with a woman -- so what? Or do I need to think about anything?
Also, and I do not want to upset or pigeonhole anybody, but I can't help comparing my body. My boobs are sagging, I have kids! I do not have a tight little pussy!
I guess whilst writing this, I would/could have this problem with all women regardless of gender history!
But still, your comments would be greatly appreciated.
This is a great educational site. I hate to admit I was pretty clueless. I still have questions but now I don't feel totally stupid. Thanks again for all the info.
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