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MIGHT BE BETTER AT RELATIONSHIPS
I have recently become extremely interested in looking into long-term involvement with post-op women, but I need somewhere to direct my questions. Can you help me at all?
Let me start with some beliefs I have started to form, and see if my mind is in the right place. What I have begun to notice is that many M-to-F post-op individuals seem even more feminine than GG's. I noticed this after becoming completely captivated by the beauty of some M-to-F women, which surprised the life out of me.
At first I was stuck thinking, "Wait! I am not gay!" But then after thinking about it I realized that, of course, I am not gay. I am not attracted to men! Then I started thinking about the whole thing very intensely, and there seemed to be some real positive logic about the idea.
For one thing, given the unique circumstances of being able to be open about the situation, it would seem to me that the level of devotion would be FAR, FAR beyond that of "normal" relationships with GG. This I assume leads to more acceptance from both sides about each other's shortcomings, which is essentially what has cost me a marriage recently.
Also one major thing occurred to me, though I could be wrong about this:
I thought about staying single forever, however I realized this is not realistic. As I have heard many guys say, "I am sick of women, if only I was gay...," but then it occurred to me that there might be a very good solution to this. I am hoping that M-to-F ladies have essentially all of the benefits of GG's, with all of the benefits of guys, put into one person.
If I am mostly headed in the right direction about this, then it might well be a dream come true for me. I am under 30, strong, muscular, have a wonderful young daughter, am considered extremely attractive by GG's, and above all I am insanely devoted. I have had two failed marriages, and I do not want to have a third fail. I desperately need some advice on this subject from someone with experience.
Thanks in advance.
WANTS A GIRL
BORN FEMALE WITH A DICK
I was looking at your website,
and at the glossary and definitions, and it was very helpful. It looks
like your site is very helpful to a lot of people. However, I still have
some questions. I don't want to get in a chat room and look completely
stupid, and I don't want to be rude and offensive. I don't know if you
are the person I need to be talking to. If not, perhaps you could point
me in the right direction.
I don't know if it is possible
for a female to be transgendered to this point and then stop and stay
that way. And I don't know what they would be called either. I know shemale
or chick with a dick is very rude and insulting, but I don't know how
to say what I am looking for. I am not just looking for a quick hook-up
or one-night stand. I would like to start a relationship and see where
T-GIRL COMFORTABLE WITH HER PENIS
I would first off like to thank you for establishing a website that puts out in-depth information on the transgendered community. It has really helped me understand transsexual people in a new way as I have been interested for a long time in beginning a long-term committed relationship with a TS woman.
However there is a topic in some of your articles I find a tad distressing. My concern comes from the way you explain bi guys, or guys who like the penis, as all bad and only looking for sexual thrills, and most TS women ignoring their male appendage.
Let me just say that that I am looking for someone that I can call my soulmate, someone I talk to in a deep, meaningful way that I wouldn't be able to with anyone else, someone to share my life with, to kiss good night and good morning for the rest of my life.
Along with this, I feel that
in any romantic relationship there has to a satisfying physical aspect
and attraction to go along with the emotional connection, this is what
separates a platonic friendship from a romantic relationship. I say this
because my ideal soulmate is a smart, down-to-earth girl that has that
extra appendage. This may make it sound like I'm only interested in the
sex, however I just don't think its fair that I must choose between emotional
connection with physical dissatisfaction, and physical satisfaction but
with emotional emptiness.
And when it came to GG's, everything was great, from the seductive eyes and soft lips, to the smooth hairless bodies and long flowing hair. But when it came down to it, I just wasn't as interested in the vagina as I am the penis.
I like a nice balance of being on top and bottom on occasion, and when I am on top I still like to play with that appendage. So then I sought after T-girls, and yes I did hook up with a couple escorts, and while the sex was great it just felt so crude and empty. Is it really that hard to find a TS girl comfortable with her male appendage that is looking for a meaningful relationship?
So basically I am just writing this wondering if there is any hope for a guy like me to be happy and if you might have some advice for me. Please, I am just a guy who is looking for love and need some help.
WON'T GO TO BED WITH YOU RIGHT AWAY
I'm Shannon, a 43-year-old transsexual and consider myself to be a woman and want to be treated and respected like any other woman.
I find guys to just think of sex. Why even mention sex to start with? I don't want to know how big your penis is and I don't want to see a photo of it, I want to get to know someone for them, being that there's so much more to someone than what's between their legs.
I like dancing, I like shopping,
I like visiting museums and galleries. I like having friends over and
cooking a meal for them. I certainly won't sleep with anyone straight
away as I want a long-term relationship, and if they can't wait around,
you know they are only interested in a quick fuck. Well, I'm better than
that and so are a lot of us girls.
I guess I am lucky. But I am very sensitive, yet told very manly. Being a 40-year-old metrosexual male helps in dating a TS. Recently, I met a girl and fell in love. After one month, several dates and thousands of text messages, this young lady and I are moving in together. It's the second time I have lived with a TS.
This one is different, she was was raised by a great set of parents and a cool brother. We both wrote a letter to the other and they could have been written by the same person. One big thing jumped out for each of us, that was that we fell in love. She is 27, a lady and very girly, I love that about her. We have very traditional roles and both love it. This includes being in the bedroom.
In the end, I can't explain it, I don't date a lot, I like TS girls (this is the third girl I've dated) but this girl is different!
I stumbled on an article you wrote and found it interesting. I thought I would send you an email.
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