TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us
Our TGirls Letters section is devoted to feedback we receive. The most recent letters appear at the top.
A TGIRL TO A GG
I find the Tgirls are a lot more feminine looking than most women. I have dated all types of women and usually I lose interest in them. I have experienced different fetishes. I am a nice guy and am very groomed and clean and I would expect the person I am with to be the same.
Most women that I have been with on dates or in bed, I find something that turns me off in a short time. I feel like I am in competition with them. I like an old-fashioned girl, sweet, attentive, intelligent, clean.and exciting in the bedroom -- and she can sxpect the same from me.
Thanks again for all the info.
THINGS ON THIS TGIRL'S
So I've read most of your articles and learned a lot of stuff. I've just finished the article that Nikki wrote about when to tell him that you're a TS.
Everythings kinda got me thinking about stuff.
I'm a semi-pro belly dancer in gay and straight clubs. When I go out for fun, I go everywhere, but when I go out to find someone, I usually stick to gay clubs 'cause when I go to straight clubs with my friends, I don't even acknowledge when the guys hit on me, mostly because im not on HRT yet. I mean, I'm as far as I can go without a doctor's help. To tell you the truth, I know for damn sure I'm not ready for a relationship, so I guess I'll just have fun with just my friends.
But one thing's for sure: The only reason I go to gay clubs to find someone to chill and drink with is because (as much as I hate to admit this) when I'm unclothed, I'm still just a really feminine-looking boy. But when I get on HRT and my chest and hips start filling out, and I'm more confident in myself and my body, I can go to straight and gay clubs.
I don't even know why I'm writing to you except that you seem to know more about people like me than I do. I was wondering if I'm the only TS that feels like this and such.
Maybe I'm just writing you this to, so speak, get this off my chest, but someday I hope to be loved for who I am, before and after my surgery. But naked, I will not feel as beautiful as I am clothed 'til I get on HRT.
Maybe I'm just confused and lost.
Thanks for your time.
Thank you for giving me the opportunity to respond to your article, and for allowing me to be a part of a really vibrant community online. I really enjoy the site and feel like it is important to both the guys and the women.
I also think this article is important. It has information that is vital to a successful relationship, and the information is important in that it is not easily available to the average person. That being said, I really feel like the choice of language in the article detracts from the message and balances on the border of pornographic. In my humble opinion, and with the deepest respect for what you have built, I feel like this particular article does not fit in with the overall feel of the sight, and might actually work against your stated purpose.
While I feel that the information in the article is valid and important, I feel like the tone might mislead the average male (especially those that tend towards the "creepy bar guy" mentality) toward thinking that type of language is acceptable in polite company, when it clearly is not. While I myself have no problem with the use of adult words in an adult work, I feel they should be used as a "spice" to enhance the "flavor" of an article, and to catch the attention of the reader. This article feels like it's over-spiced to me.
The other issue I had is probably my own ignorance and not a problem at all. You say something to the effect of: "used to be male" twice during the article. From my experience with transwomen, the understanding I have is they where always women, but had male parts. In other articles you have suggested that men think of the male anatomy as a plumbing issue. May I humbly suggest you use that analogy in this article, and refer not to the women as having used to be men, but as having male anatomy. Again, I am new to trans issues, but this seems like something that could be an issue that might confuse a man and insult a woman.
I really appreciate the article overall. I think it certainly puts some things into perspective and helps me address issues I have and am facing. It certainly helps me address the fact that I have an attraction to transwomen, and what is appropriate in relation to dealing with that. Especially since my only introduction to the trans world prior to meeting someone and finding your site was the porn industry.
I hope this information is of use to you, and I certainly appreciate your efforts to educate people such as myself, as well as provide a broader acceptance of transwomen in general.
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