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WAS CLEARLY SAID
Subject: Great Thoughts
Date: 3/30/2004 5:08:49 PM Pacific Standard Time
Just read your How to Date a Transsexual Woman and I think you've covered
all the salient points very accurately. I am a 44-year-old white male
that has been involved with several TG women (escorts and non-pro) and
well as GGs, and you brought into clearer focus some of the attractions
I've felt over the years. I personally don't think an attraction to their
male organs indicates a reduced seriousness about their femininity (I've
enjoyed being topped by GGs as well as TGs), but to each his own.
I'd be interested in knowing some more about the author. I'm guessing
you are not 25. You are more introspective and eloquent about this topic
than most of the TGs or GGs or men I've met. Is there a reason for that
(for example psychoanalytical training)? Are you living in a tolerant
part of the country? I'm in the SF Bay Area.
Good work. And it was important someone say it as clearly as you did.
Subject: Your article on dating a pre-op transsexual woman
Date: 3/29/2004 9:19:39 PM Pacific Standard Time
Thank you so much for sending me your article. As a pre-op transsexual
woman, I agree with everything in your article. It is so important to
received and addressed as a woman.
Subject: Hello from Thailand!
Date: 3/24/2004 9:34:30 PM Pacific Standard Time
This is my first chance to get to a computer with the Internet, so I apologize
for keeping everyone in the dark. This computer is a little slow in connecting
to the some of my email and messenger accounts, so I'll do my best in
getting out my messages to everyone as soon as I can.
My surgery was on March 19th, and I'm now six days post-op. I'm recovering
very well and there have been no complications. I have a very minor allergic
reaction, they say, but it is only a slight rash on my body. No worries!
Dr. Suporn said the surgery went well, and it only took 5.5 hours. I actually
remember vaguely being wheeled out of the OR right after surgery! I was
on my own feet later that evening, and I spent four days in the hospital.
It was quite lonely, and I had a hard time breathing through my nose due
to the swelling. I currently wear a forehead and nose splint or cast to
protect my forehead, mainly. It is funny seeing people stare in wonder
at the cast! LOL.
I didn't eat for several days after surgery -- I just wasn't hungry. But
I drank a LOT of water, something like six litres, I'm sure. On each day
post-op, Dr. Suporn came to visit me to check on my progress. He said
that I don't have a lot of swelling in comparison to other patients, and
my quick recovery is due to me being young and strong. Yay, me! Dr. Suporn
said that when all the swelling goes down, I will still have the same
face -- all he did was soften my features, he added in his own words.
I have had peek at my forehead when he removed the cast momentarily: Wow!
My forehead is undeniably female, but the sutures along my scalp make
me look like the Bride of Frankenstein! LOL. My chin and nose are going
to be swollen the longest, and I do have and will have numbness on the
button of my chin and the front of my scalp for months, but that is normal.
The nerves will most likely regenerate, but there are no gaurentees. That
came with the surgery, but it doesn't worry me.
Yesterday, a nurse's brother, Heng, took me to the ancient capital of
Thailand, Ayutthaya -- just a hour or so from Bangkok. It was so lovely!
Heng was like my personal guide and we went to see ancient ruins and Bhuddist
temples and even wandered around one of the Thai Royal family's estates!
I took a lot of pictures, so I'll have to send them to everyone once I
return home. I must have been dehydrated, although I was drinking a lot
of water -- the heat and humidity is stiffling here! We are in the hot
season and temperatures are around 35C all day long. I vomitted a couple
times, but after I had fruit and a couple of slushies, I felt a lot better.
I guess not eating for several days after surgery has left me a little
weak in that regard, but I'm okay. I'm still catching up on sleep, but
I'm sleeping well lately. Overall, I'm doing very well.
I see Dr. Suporn this coming Saturday, and I think it is then I will have
my sutures and staples removed. Wannee, the nurse that has been seeing
me the most, says that my wounds are healing very well. After the visit
to the clinic, I'm going to a couple of local attractions: A tiger zoo
and maybe an aqaurium. Next week, I will be staying a week in Pattaya,
a very well-known resort town, and apparently very pretty! Wannee is helping
me plan an intinerary to see other parts of the country too, so this is
turning out to be very fascinating adventure!
I'll be in touch as often as possible. I'm in good hands and can't wait
to see everyone once I'm back home. Love to all, and take care.
RUDE TS ADMIRERS
Subject: TS admirers
Date: 3/20/2004 11:00:59 AM Pacific Standard Time
I recently read your article about transsexual admirers and couldn't agree
more. I'm a M2F pre-op transsexual, 43, who has been living and working
as a female for about 20 years now, and I have yet to meet one through
a personals ad that was worthwhile.
Not long ago,
I received one who was in a relationship with a woman and had a child,
who kept telling me he would send a picture of himself only if I promised
not to show it to anyone because he was well known in the community (Lake
Charles, La.) and he didn't want anyone to know he was associated with
someone like me. When I disregarded him, he sent me a nasty email for
ignoring him, telling me I should "act like a man" and let him
know what was going on with me. I hate to admit it, but I then sent him
an email giving him the email address of a TG site thinking (and hoping)
he would meet up with a tranny there that would trick-roll him, knowing
he would be too embarrassed and afraid to go to the police and report
a crime like that. I've heard some TS's do that.
I'm still grateful my experiences weren't as bad as others'. I knew this
TS in Texas who met a guy, and once there, he refused to be seen with
her in public saying she was an embarrassment who looked like a man in
drag. He told her there would be no way to explain the situation if he
ran into someone he knew. He would be branded a homosexual and become
a laughingstock in his community. She was forced to return home the next
day. Some months later, she met someone else and he pretty much did the
same thing to her.
It almost makes you want to "pass" and lie to people, but then
you think of Brandon Teena, etc. So maybe that isn't such a good thing.
HUBBY, THE WIFE, THE TS
Subject: dating t-girls - an experience I've had to live with
Date: 3/3/2004 9:37:50 AM Pacific Standard Time
I met a vivacious women at a disco back in 1979 when my wife and I were
separated. Giovonna was everyman's dream and we quickly became intimate
except for actual intercourse. When she told me one day her sexual gender,
I about walked away from what I thought was a meaningful relationship
but didn't. Although we stopped dating on a very regular basis, we remained
friends with both of us obviously emotionally involved.
Reuniting with my wife after several months' separation, when she was
ready to go back work, I referred her to the same company where Giovonna
worked as a salesperson. After being interviewed twice, Carol was hired
to be one of the company's several service writers and dispatchers.
Unbeknownst to me, Giovonna met Carol the first day and over the course
of several weeks the two of them began to be friendly. It was when Giovonna
invited Carol to go with her to disco one night I discovered they had
met and had become friends.
In fact, Giovonna had given Carol one of her disco dance outfits and a
pair of shoes to wear the night they and several other gals went dancing.
Needless to say, Carol got right into it thus started our weekly trek
to the disco on Saturday nights.
At the time, I was working for a major company as a district real estate
manager, which required my finding sites in selected territories to purchase,
lease and permit for eventual construction of business locations. The
job required my being away from home sometimes for as much as two weeks.
To make the story shorter, in my absence Carol became more friendly with
Giovonna as they were spending more time together in my absence. One thing
must of led to another over time because thet two of them became intimate
openly and routinely hugging each other all the time. Fact was they were
also kissing each other first on the cheek and then on the lips on a few
occassions that I knew about. That's what caused the house to fall down.
From what Carol had told me, one day while fooling around on our bed apparently
with each being almost nude having changed clothes or something, Giovonna
apparently somehow seduced then penetrated Carol in her moment of passion
and weakness. It that weren't bad enough, Carol had allowed it and apparently
liked Giovonna enough to have started a romantic relationship.
When it came out Carol was making love with Giovonna, a women with a penis
it, was too much for me and thus caused our already fragile marriage relationship
to break apart. Hence we divorced. Eventually Giovonna and Carol went
their separate ways and I have no idea where either is today.
Ever since, I've been intrigued by transsexuals being attracted to them.
However, after moving to Central California several years ago from the
East Coast, I've not come in contact with any of them. I'm now 58 years
old, semi-retired. At 5' 11" weighing 228 pounds, in good physical
condition, it might be interesting connecting with with someone that's
chosen this gender identification again.
GIRL WANTS TS GIRL
Subject: Hello I'm a female
Date: 3/3/2004 1:09:05 AM Pacific Standard Time
Hello, I'm a female. I'm attracted to TS's. I have known this for years
now but can't do anything about it. Most TS's are attracted to males so
how can I find that special TS, or should I give up?
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