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& HIS NON-OP TGIRL
I had been looking for somewhere on the web where I could discuss my experience as someone actually in a relationship with a TS woman here in the UK for several years now. I've registered for the chatroom but not ventured in there yet -- I'm slightly intimidated by such things.
But I thought I would just offer a few thoughts that, while not exactly contradicting some of your coments about what girls and men want, perhaps broaden the debate a little.
I have in the past referred to myself both as an "admirer" because I actively sought out TS and TV girlfriends, and as bisexual, because I have been down that path, too. Indeed, my lady and I met at a London nightclub where TS's congregate, and so do the men that seek them -- for whatever reason. And yes -- I did have a drink in my hand at the time! My girlfriend was beautiful that night, and still was the next morning over coffee. Now, four years and many afternoons spent in Starbucks together sipping lattes, she is more beautiful than ever, and I consider myself a lucky guy.
So if I don't conform to good boyfriend material, neither does my girlfriend quite conform to the stereotype of what a TS woman is meant to be: She has no embarrassment about her pre-op genitalia, and has no desire to do away with it. She also would be surprised if I were not to want to touch her "down there," as we both get pleasure from my doing exactly that. My girlfriend takes trouble to look, act and sound like a girl in public, which she does, in my eyes, to perfection. But she knows she is not a "real" woman, often joking about and taking pleasure from the subversive nature of her situation and our relationship.
Is it all rosy ? No of course not. The hormones my girlfriend takes to increase her femininity do cause unpredictable mood swings. There are some hefty complications to do with her immigrant status that are made yet more complicated because her passport says she is a boy. And in truth, we haven't yet integrated our relationship into my small circle of friends, colleagues and family. But we are progressing.
So I would just share this with you with the thought that, while the guidance you give is surely true in many instances, it is possible to find love and stability outside of the more obvious stereotypes. Vive la difference!
--Andy (aka Pencelli),
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I am just coming out of a relationship with a Tgirl. I have to say it was one of the most memorable times of my life. We dated for almost nine months and I would not have traded it for anything.
I plan on joining your group, going to the chatroom and introducing myself to all there. Even though there are no ladies that live in my area, I still want to be an active member of your site.
Again, I thank you and do keep up the great work. You should be applauded for all you have done.
I do presently keep an active blog, where I have had a few invites to a couple of other dating sites which for the most part was full of chasers looking for that woman with something extra special, I did however talk to a couple of interesting and nice men.
Again, I really appreciated your response to the Jerry Springer Show, which is how I learned about your site in the first place.
Otherwise for me, yes I happen to be a transwoman. But I'm also happily engaged, so as you can imagine. I don't have any reason to sign up for the site, but I may send a friend to two in your direction.
HIS TGIRL RELATIONSHIP
What I realized is that I had a desire to be with a woman who knew what it was like to be a man. I'm not bragging, but I was always the type who never had problems getting dates. I'm tall, athletic, and well spoken, and yet I have had no luck getting a relationship with a TS. I have prayed about it, and wondered if there was anyone out there who truly could make me feel whole, and so I think that the best thing I can do is keep looking.
I've considered moving into areas that have a TS community, just on the grounds that I'm so depressed with the situation in Alabama. If there is someone, anyone, out there that wants to meet a caring, loving, strong man who would treat you like a true angel, please write to me. I know that there is someone out there who is waiting on someone like me to show up.
TGirls, let the guys who contact you know about this website. Please run a link to our homepage, or to any page you find of importance.
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