TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us
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PARTS OF A TGIRL
I read your article, and I found it extremely informative. For many years, I've really wanted to one day have a relationship with a pre-op (or non-op) Tgirl. But, I've always wondered what would be the proper ettiquette for asking someone out. Now, after reading your article, I have an idea of how to approach such a woman without offending her.
However, I am still kind of confused about two issues you did discuss. I have had sex with a pre-op TS woman before, but it was more of a drunken one-night stand instead of something serious. I didn't really do anything to pleasure her though, and I felt kind of bad because it made me feel selfish. But, from your article, you said to just consider it as plumbing, and that the last thing they want to do is top a guy or have a guy go down on them. But, if I were to have a relationship with someone, would she be offended if I went down on her? Or if I acknowledged her male parts?
I wouldn't want to dig up any hurtful memories or offend her, if I met a pre-op Tgirl, and we ended up sleeping together. And, I don't know if it makes me gay because I am attracted to a woman with a penis, but if it does, I wouldn't care. All I know is that a female form with a penis turns me on, and a male form with a penis doesn't. So I don't know how that classifies me according to the second part of your article. I'm sorry, this email is so long winded, but I don't really have anyone else to ask these questions of, or know who to go to.
OF TGIRLS & GIRLFRIENDS
HOW TO TALK ABOUT "THAT"
First, I want to thank you for maintaining such great site full of great information. There aren't many sites like this, if any at all.
I have read a few articles inside and am a little bit puzzled. By no means am I trying to be disrespectful or trying to be rude. Please bear with me.
I am trying to honestly get some ideas what is good and not so good when talking to a Tgirl. The mental connection or spark is priority and a must, but physical attraction is also very important. What I am looking for is a certain type of a woman. What I mean by that is certain physical appearance that is attractive to me. I honestly categorize it as looking for a tall, short, blond or brunette, slim or plus size, black or white, or whatever.
A woman that has a penis is just that: a woman with a penis, just like another woman has small or big breasts, or is of Caucasian or Asian descent, or whatever that is unique to her. This is the kind of woman I am looking for. But how do I find such lady if almost any attempt of discussing it with her seems disrespectful? A typical question from a Tgirl usually is: "Why do you like transsexual women? What is that attracts you to them?"
How do I answer such question without her assuming I am just trying to "score with something new"? This is not true, obviously. On your site, what mostly I was able to find was what NOT to do, but not much of what SHOULD I do when the lady really asks questions that are very specific to her person and my answers to the questions that should be fine really are not. I didn't go over the entire site, so if there is an article that I missed, please kindly point me to it. Or maybe you could help me and explain me a few things or even write a short article for this purpose for other guys like me who are honest but a bit unfamiliar
Thanks so much for bearing with me. Again, thanks for this wonderful site.
Have a really great day!
BI & NEEDS THE
I've been a cross dresser much of my life and very much feel an affinity to both sexes. Like many of the admirers of which you speak, I especially love femininity. Although, I've never been with a man, male genitalia was certainly a big highlight of my experiences with transsexual partners (my first time giving oral sex, for one). Although I am in a LTR with a woman whom I love, I would be open to recreational sex with a guy if my current relationship were ever to end. For various reasons, it is unlikely that I would ever consider a LTR with a man or transsexual.
Looking back on my experience "hooking up" with transsexual women at a bar in Phoenix a few years back, I realized that I was exactly the guy you described in your article. After a few "conquests," it became very apparent to me that transsexual women were looking for exactly what any other girl, or person for that matter, was looking for: A genuine, honest, loving relationship. As much as I enjoyed my sexual experiences with transsexual women -- yes, I confess I loved their penises -- I realized that I was not able to offer what it was they were seeking, and that I was only using them for my own sexual gratification (something I've never been into with genetic males or females).
I'm not sure why I chose to
write this message, other than to say that there are some of us bisexual
guys out there who aren't totally oblivious, and who don't feel at all
comfortable treating transsexual women exclusively as sexual objects.
I genuinely liked one my partners, and this fact put my irresponsible
behavior in stark relief. Although I never hooked up with a cross dresser,
I presume many of them may have also been looking for one-night stands,
like me. Do you think they might be a better option for "admirers"
wanting to "explore" (one of your buzz words -- ha ha) sexually
who aren't necessarily looking for a relationship?
BACK WITH LEGS UP
I'm hoping you can give me some advice. For a few years now I've been fantasizing about having sex with a transsexual. I've been wanting to have a transsexual fuck me while I'm on my back with my feet in the air. You know, have sex like a female.
So I've been thinking about seeing a transsexual escort. I've found one in my area that has very good reviews. Since I've never done this before, I'm somewhat hesitant. Thing is I really would like to just let go of my inhibitions and experience this. What do you think?
TGIRL SEEKING A REGULAR
I read Trina's article on dating TS women and it was a pleasure for me to read. I've been interested in dating a TS woman for about five years now. Unfortunately, I have had bad luck finding a good site to meet women. The best of the worst has been (site name deleted). I met many women there a few years ago and made two very good friends on that site. At one time, I think it might have been a nice place to meet sincere women but now it is overrun with scammers and prostitutes.
Can you recommend a good site where I can meet a sincere TS woman who wants an LTR with a 40-year-old, divorced, straight, masculine, regular guy? I would sincerely appreciate any help that you can give to me. I will give you more information if you need it. Thanks so much for reading my email.
IT JUST FEELS
I was told to write to you in regard to upgrading my account on the TS Girlfriend site. Thank you for making this site available to the community. It is a great service and very much needed.
I also spent some time reading your MySpace blog. I like what you have to say and the honest way in which you say it. You are a man who knows his own mind and I appreciate that. My father's favorite word was "responsibly." I was raised with the notion that I needed to be responsible for my actions and to those around me. So few people, anymore, seem to have that ethic.
I, too, was a Republican who turned Democrat in the '90s. The last Republican I voted for was George Bush senior. I did not vote for him the second time, but also could not bring myself to vote for Clinton. Why? I didn't trust him.
Thanks again for the site and perhaps we'll get a chance to chat one day.
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