TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us
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ASKS HIM OUT
I am a straight guy
(I think), but I have always been drawn to Tgirls. After a failed marriage
I have been indulging in Internet dating and I tried hard to locate a
TS woman, but the only one I found already has a fiance and they are to
be married in 2010 following her operation. Just chatting on-line with
Just recently a miracle happened, I was approached online by a pre-op TS lady asking me if I would be interested in taking her out. I intend to jump at the chance. In preparation for this event, I searched the web for information about dating a TS lady, and by great fortune I came across your website.
I cannot remember when I have come across a more lucid piece of work and hopefully by reading through it I can make our first date a pleasurable experience for both of us. If things progress to the point where a sexual encounter is going to take place, I will be prepared in a way that would have been impossible before.
As the lady is pre-op and undergoing HRT treatment, I will be able to treat her the way she wants and deserves. If we can hit it of just as people, who knows where out relationship will take us?
Thank you again
I'm a heterosexual, over-40 male in the UK and I'm very cautiously considering a TS girlfriend after having my heart shattered into a thousand shards by my wife of over 20 years. I read some of the articles on your site and found them to be helpful and interesting. I intend reading more of them but my heart goes out to all the TS ladies who have had to endure all the sticks and stones tossed at them by the all insensitive fools in our society.
I tried your chat
room but it's off line at present, although since my typing speed is so
slow I prefer forums, as they give one time to think about how to phrase
things without upsetting others too much, which I find is all too easily
done on the Internet.
HE'S IN LOVE
Thanks for the advice, it really helped. I met a post-op and love her.
I'M NOT AN
Your article on TS admirers has left me a bit confused here.
First, I am new to
TS's and make a lot of mistakes about what is expected. Does this make
me an admirer? I don't really believe it does. Since I have had very little
contact with the TS community in general, some contact on the Net, and
in a other chat rooms, which promote sexual encounters, I really don't
know much about transsexual relationships or dating. According to your
definition of an "admirer," I seem to fall into that category!
I must say that article was very intriguing.
I'll tell you one thing, my friend….
I am a very straight heterosexual man, 37 years old, and just in the last year and a half I have become very curious about shemales, ladyboys, Tgirls or whatever else we label them as.
However I am can only find desire in the attractive, feminine ones.
I hope to experience one soon!
Anyway, I do not wish to waste your time. I just wanted to say thanks for the great writing, I look forward to reading more.
IN THE UK
I live in England and am interested in meeting a TS woman but am not sure how to go about it without appearing perverted or weird. I think the reasons you highlighted, like them being very feminine and the like, are very appealing to me and definitely make me attracted to them as women, and not as sexual objects.
I define myself as straight because I like women, and as long as they're interested in a man and not anything like in those creepy pornos then I think I've come to the right place.
I've been reading your articles and they're very interesting, but the locations you mention are all in the US. Do you have any contacts in the UK, and if so, I would greatly appreciate your help.
I have been viewing your website for some time now. I enjoy the reading. I object to something.
While I realize TG woman are women, the generalizations you make about them are flat-out wrong, or distorted might be a better word.
Not all TG women view themselves as heterosexual. A much high percentage of them are either bi or gay. I have no problem with that. My biggest issue is the TG that have not had their surgery are not normal woman. They are special women. For them to think they can have relations that avoid that issue is pure fantasy, but I do feel bad there are not more accepting men Transsexual woman are sexual almost by definition. When a man thinks of a TG, he is either completely turned off or he is fascinated by it in kind of a sexy way.
Men don't view transsexuals the same way as regular women. I am sorry it doesn't happen that way because they have GG's to view as normal woman. Once in a while someone might get lucky, but sorry to say that is not even close to the norm. I realize there is nothing we can do about that except to educate society, mostly to get rid of the hatred most men and lot of women have toward TG women.
I personally think TG's are sexy and special. Their parts scare me so I don't pursue it any further than a dream. I am also a CD. A CD is not a normal man.
God luck with your website and self.
I have an issue with it.
I am TG/CD. I also have four straight sisters who are women, but as a TG I know I am feminine but not a woman and no operation nor hormone out there will give me a womb and the experience of natural childbirth and womanhood that a born woman has. But I know what it means to be beautiful, feminine, loving and needing a masculine male that is attracted to feminine energy.
I have never in my life, even when working with trans people in SF, seen a transsexual having the same experience as a woman. I have seen the same experiences that feminine energy has with regards to masculine attraction, but the relationship between heterosexual men and women is not the same.
There is no responsibility to procreation and honoring the person who has the potential to carry your physical body into the future. Men relate to the womb much differently than to the object of their sexual desire. They often view "women" as holy in a way whereas they view a TS or CD as the object of their sexual fulfillment and sexual desire.
In reality, men that like CD's/TS's/TV's are masculine males that like the feminine male, not gay men who tend to be masculine attracted to masculine and who often mock or poke fun at femininity in their drag shows. As a female spirit myself, I find them to be gross and boring attention seekers, dramatic, emotional and often adolescent. When a gay man comes onto me, he desires me to be in the male role; it makes me cringe.
By not having operations and taking cancer-causing hormones, female-spirited men can force these other men to accept us as we are and to love us as we are. My dating posts specify this and I get so much response I don't know what to do. I can't tell you how many men are thrilled with my openness and how deep down they really do desire exactly what I am, and how they want to explore. They do want the tits but then they're not sure. They're confused by the entire male issue and being gay, etc.
Since we just aren't educating people regarding sexuality enough, it's probably the most important issue not discussed in the world and the reason for wars, deaths, murders, suicides -- so much pain. I think these men love the male with the female energy but in society today the fear of homosexuality makes it safer for them to go with a TS over a feminine male. And then there is the prostitution -- don't even get me started on that.
Of course, I'm not saying I have the final word on this because I'm writing to you for myself as I see it's important for people to communicate, especially regarding sexuality.
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