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TGirls Letters - TGirl Feedback to Us

October, 2005

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THE DELIBERATIONS OF TGIRL DATING
Subject: Your article
Date: 10/29/2005 12:59:07 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@gmail.com

I became interested in dating a TS after coming across some photos of a pre-op TS on a website. I became incredibly aroused like almost nothing I had ever experienced before. Naturally, this raised some questions in my mind. Am I gay? But after some pretty intense reflecting, I realized I wasn't aroused by photos of naked men, just the opposite, frankly. Also, I realized I was not aroused by photos of TS's who have any other noticeable male feature other than a penis.

Although I do enjoy anal sex, I never have had or wished to have sex with a man. But nevertheless I was turned on by the sight of a totally hot woman having sex with a man or a woman. The intense arousal and self analysis led me consider the prospect of dating such a woman. Even at 40 years of age, I have a serious sex drive, but as I pondered whether or not dating a TS was what I wanted, the issue you raised about plumbing came to the fore. I thought that at first that maybe I was bisexual and and that a pre-op TS is what I wanted, but thankfully upon further consideration I realized I wasn't so much turned on by the fact she had a penis, but more so by the sheer novelty of what I was looking at. Almost akin to a teenager who looks at his first Playboy.

I realized that I was in a unique situation, it absolutely didn't make any difference to me either way from a purely sexual standpoint. As a man, I naturally consider the sexual aspects first. Next came the most important issue I would face. Was prepared to deal with the social implications? If she was post-op, obviously no big deal. I personally didn't care if she had a penis as long as the rest of her was all woman. But what if my friends found out she had a cock? Socially I don't think I could handle dating a pre-op TS. I'm a realist. I would lose most of my friends and family. At least for a little while.

In the end, I decided to hell with it. I didn't care one iota about her plumbing as long as she has a nice ass, an ass like a woman, hips all that. Oh yes, I have to say your website is fantastic. I will be making a donation, the structure is very impressive.

--Mark.

ARE ALL TGIRLS HERE RACIST?
Subject: Concerns
Date: 10/28/2005 7:25:35 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@gmail.com

I am a black male located in Springfield, Illinois, sincere, serious, and seeking a relationship with a TS. I am not a weirdo, nor am I only seeking sex. I am single, professionally employed and an outstanding member of the community. I have exchanged emails with several of your members, and the conversation is usually great until I tell them I am African-American. I made my mind up that this is what I want. I would like to know what I am doing wrong, where I should look, should I give up and go back to GG's, or are all TS's, that are not sluts or escorts are RACIST. Please help me understand.

--Stephen.

TGIRL JUST WANTS TO BE LOVED FOR WHO SHE IS
Subject: I am alone...
Date: 10/26/2005 3:10:02 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@gmail.com

Hello,

I'm an attractive, beautiful, educated, 44-year-old woman just moved to Canada.

Nobody knows I am a TG woman, not even my ex-husband that I lived with for 14 years, and also my second husband. I feel alone, I am not happy and feel I am a liar,
and after 24 years, I wanna talk about myself. I want to date a man who loves me because of who I am.

Can you help me, please? I don't wanna be nervous when I have sex any more. I want to be free and happy about my body.

Love,

--Nikkei.

TGIRL TURNS ON TO PORN
Subject: re: date-a-pre-op-ts-article
Date: 10/22/2005 5:14:45 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@gmail.com

Excellent article, your points are well made. I find myself in the center of what I believe to be an unusual circumstance, however, one I'm quite sure is my own misunderstanding of the commonly recorded tales.

I am extremly TG myself, and often find myself masturbating over shemale photos and films. On the other hand, my GG partner is also turned on by my crossdressing and the sight and sound of shemale porn flicks. I think that to a certain extent, my full-blown (pardon the expression,) crossdressing allows her to express her deeply-repressed lesbian tendancies. Now, I often wonder about my sexual preference, although I've proven to myself through experimentation that "normal" gay sex is absolutely not my cup of tea. I haven't bothered trying to understand her desires, I just appreciate them. So, I'm left feeling totally confused by labels.

I am not a transsexual fully, I have no desire to endure SRS, although the thought of permanant breast implants excites me. I am not interested in sex with a male, although the concept of making a male desire me while dressed and satisfying him completly is exciting. I think that feeling is just a human craving, rather than any specific gender issue.

In my world, if my GG partner woke up tomorrow with a penis instead of a clitoris, I think we could both live happily ever after. And then, some days I think that would be a mistake.

All I know right now is, I have a wild and wonderful love life that I would not change for anything. Anyway, thanks for your insights, I've got some leg to shave, so I'll be off.

--Gil.

TGIRL WANTS THE ARTICLE, TOO
Subject: (no subject)
Date: 10/21/2005 5:02:16 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@gmail.com

Thank you for the printout on TS dating. Many men want to go out with me but they don't know I'm a transsexual. The ones I told became distant, and I prefer a straight man than one being gay. Hopefully when I read and reread this article, I'll know how to handle it better. I'm a pre-op and 100% passable and approved for SRS. Once again, thank you.

--Claudia.

HAS HIS EYE ON A CERTAIN TGIRL
Subject: becoming a member
Date: 10/20/2005 9:26:43 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@gmail.com

Dear Sir/madam

I have visited your website and I have tried to join by becoming a member. Perhaps I have not done it correctly, but I tried to become a member once before and I waited for some kind of reply but never recieved one so I tried again today. I have no problem going through some kind of vetting process as this is something that I have been looking for, (a ligitimate TS personal dating place) because every other place I have come across, until I found your website, was whores and sluts just looking to use and get used.

Anyhow, I have perused the ads and there is one particular lady that I would like to get to know and I have been waiting for the membership approval in order to proceed, and I would really like to begin the process of getting to know her (If she is so inclined, and I hope she will be) but I would just like to know if there is something else I need to complete. How long I should expect the approval process to take? Thanks.

TGIRLS ALWAYS DRESSES NICE
Subject: Thanks for the article
Date: 10/14/2005 1:29:54 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@gmail.com

A great article that many men should read. You seperated men as those looking for an "experience," and those of us looking for a relationship, great job. I have wanted to date a TS for many years now, but also understood the fact that just to get a date was extremely hard to do.

Many TS women tend to group us all together and have built up a wall, understandable. You exactly nailed my reason for wanting a date. A TS woman always dresses and looks so beautiful. They are just amazing women. Also, the trials they have gone through to become what they are today makes me confident that if we do end up together that they will be there for me as much as I will for them. Trials and hardship only make a person stronger.

Let me close by asking this: As a man and never have experienced giving anal sex, what should I expect? Also, would it be wrong to find a escort to try it first? Do not get me wrong, if I found a person, I fell in love with, I would not care about anything but the person, but I also just have that as a question.

Thanks,

--Darren.

THE BEAUTIFUL TGIRL DATE
Subject: awesome
Date: 10/14/2005 5:46:03 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@gmail.com

My first date with a beautiful TS was this Tuesday, both of us are into bondage so it might be a slow process to discover what we both enjoy. I was sent your article, thank you as you have answered many questions I had about this lifestyle.

--Bob K.

WANTS TO MEET A TGIRL
Subject: (no subject)
Date: 10/11/2005 3:26:48 AM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@gmail.com

Could you give me advice on how I could meet a TS woman of any kind? I am am willing to be understanding as to what a TS has to endure but more importantly to me is the values, character and personality of the person. This not a new interest with me but one of a long time standing. I want to find a person who is willing to love me as I will her, with respect, understanding, caring and commitment. I am a somewhat shy person and my family is rather traditional and I don't seek to flaunt any difference in them but still value myself and my potential partner in life on the same level.

I don't even know where to start. But I was thinking that the Internet would be a good place. I felt uneasy in the TS chatroom you have and found it impossible for me to break into the areas of discussion I wanted and needed to talk about and learn about.

Can you help me?

--Jim.

BRUCE IS IN THE HUNT FOR A TGIRL
Subject: Seeking relationship in the Gulf South
Date: 10/8/2005 7:46:02 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@gmail.com

Hi,

My name's Bruce and I live in Baton Rouge. I'm 54 (and I apologize for sounding vain when I tell you I look 10 years younger than that), 5' 7", 160 lbs., brown hair with a smattering of gray, and hazel eyes. I'm
single (three years divorced), no kids. I've been a technical writer for most of my professional life in a variety of industries -- aerospace, defense, petrochemical, information technology -- but currently coordinate and co-author proposals for my current employer.

I own a Harley and spend much of my free time on it. In fact, I recently took a week off to ride up to Chattanooga to meet with a couple of friends from Columbus, Ohio, but then had to ride all the way across Tennessee and Arkansas to Texas before heading south and east again, all thanks to a storm named Katrina. I also enjoy hunting, particularly with traditional and primitive archery tackle, but haven't had the opportunity to do so in awhile. Reading, movies, dinner out or in -- I like the usual stuff and am not hard to please. Since I'm a child of the 60s and 70s, my musical preferences are classic rock, blues, and country (not in any particular order). I detest rap and hip-hop.

I've been with TS before, though not in a relationship per se. And at the risk of sounding like a hedonistic Lothario, a TS's femininity is perhaps the strongest attraction. I'm honest and tend not to mince words, which occasionally pisses some folks off, but I don't play games. I was raised by my late father to treat all women with respect; it's a trait I'm proud of and will adhere to until I die. I'm looking for more than just a sexual relationship. I'd like to be able to connect on personal, mental, spritual and emotional levels as well. If you'd like to know more, please drop me a line. I can also send you a recent
picture if you'd like.

--Bruce.

LOS ANGELES TGIRL SEEKS HUSBAND
Subject: Seeking a Serious Relationship
Date: 10/6/2005 6:35:18 PM Pacific Standard Time
From: Deleted
To: tsgirlfriend4me@gmail.com

Hi,

I read your info on a possible way to meet men, via your site. So I am requesting you post my email address in hopes I can meet a normal, decent man.

I am currently on hormone therapy, and am having very slow developement due to my age. I am 49, and my chances are pretty small to find a future husband, I know, but I have to try.

I am not passable, on HRT, and am very serious about my transition. I live in Los Angeles and currently have no pic that I am happy with, as I need a SERIOUS makeover.

Thanks for reading this.

Regards,

--Amina.

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