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STATE OF TGIRLS IN TURKEY
I am an over-50 male from Istanbul,
Turkey. Well educated. Actually, an MD.
Unfortunately, in my youth, we didn't have the Internet and the possibility of living in a cybervillage. The situation here in Turkey is a bit different, I think. First of all, because of social obligations, almost all of the Tgirls are in sex business. Actually, I don't want to get a girlfriend from there. This does not mean that I neglect what they are doing. On the contrary, I am very well aware that they don't have any other option left to earn their living. Life in the sex business is tough, so the girls get tough and are almost never able to trust someone like me. They become very offensive and all they think is money.
I remarked about this situation with our girls in some US forums. It is said that it is almost impossible to find a Tgirl in Istanbul just to sit and chat; that if you don't pay them they just turn and go away. Sad but true.
I think that I have stop here. Otherwise it is going to be an endless email. :)
Thanks for reading it.
I just wanted to comment on your writing on your site. It was very educational for me, well written and constructed. I found it to be illuminating. As I live in Taiwan, I have an additional challenge of culture and language. I will take your advice to heart.
Let me say sorry ahead of time if this is hard to make sense of or the grammar sucks. I wrote it off the top of my head.
In the post you pretty heavily emphasized that most Tgirls won't want you to even notice their penis. That's something that's always confused me because, while I can sort of see why, I don't exactly understand. Tgirls are women their whole life and trapped in a man's body. However I don't get how someone can hate or be ashamed of part of their body like that.
From personal experience, I feel like it may be that they're worried of what their lover might think rather than a personal problem with it; beyond not wanting it. I have some scar tissue on the side of my penis that I always used to be self conscious about and it kept me from becoming sexually active for a bit longer than normal. However every woman I've been with has said it's not a problem. I feel that it might be the same with a transsexual woman.
Perhaps they were treated as weird or gay their whole life for something that isn't their fault and are directing their hate on the "symbol" of masculinity. Taking that into consideration, I think that it's perfectly reasonable for a man to want to have a Tgirl's penis involved in their sex if she's ok with it. I can't understand why it should ever be taboo to discuss or such a touchy subject.
It seems like it's psychological baggage and fear rather than a dislike. Is it commonly the case that it's "off limits," or is rather a matter of how comfortable the girl in question is with her partner? Just curious as to the why and how serious it would be if I brought it up right before sex. If I said something like, "Don't worry about what I think. Don't be ashamed that you have a dick. I want this to be as good for you as it can be. I mean, I like having my dick touched, so why not use it while you have it? It's not really that big of a deal if you aren't comfortable with it, however it is something to think about." Would that be a bad move even if we've been dating for awhile? I'm no psychologist and I speak from my own experiences with my dick and a pretty logical point of view.
In the end, I don't think anyone should be ashamed of any part of their body regardless of if they're a man or a woman or had a drunk doctor circumcise them and whatever the opposite of that is.
ATYPICAL KLEINFELTER'S SYNDROME
I have a similar yet different problem. I was born intersexed with one extra Y chromosome tacked on to the 46 X female ones -- Kleinfelter's Syndrome. But I am atypical. Internally as well as with bone structure, I am a woman. Yet I have no external vagina and I ended up with a micro penis.
Therein lies an additional problem. They construct vaginas from the penis and I have way too insufficient tissue. No testes or prostate, either. I end up with an even worse situation than TS's have. Men expect a functional penis, it seems. Mine, of course, is not, yet I did develop some male features prior to age 15. I had undescended testes at play with the hormones. However at that age they became infected and were removed.
If only that had happened pre-puberty. If only I had had sexual reassignment surgery early in life, I could have developed like any other girl. Not even clinics and specialists dealing with TS's relate to me. And when I contact TS's, it seems they enjoy attacking me. As said, my Kleinfelters is very atypical. And everyone assumes I am like the usual cases when I am not. I have never had a boyfriend and am terribly lonely.
I am about to turn 65, yet look much younger. People seem to think I'm anywhere from 28 to 45. I wear a junior five or seven, or petite four or six. When younger, I even had periods, except of course there was no place for it to go and reabsorbed back into my body. Thankfully, I had menopause at age 54.
Women always seem supportive, men not so much. None have been violent in my adult years, but then I can't get dates with straight, bi or gay men. I am simply in a twilight zone. Any advice you might offer would be greatly appreciated. People are always saying how pretty and cute as well as sweet I am. If only I could find an accepting man.
Oh and on this site I can't seem too find my way to get to chat, complete a profile or anything. All those areas my cursor is not active but was writing to you. I really relate to transsexuals, yet they don't to me. I am verbally abused by them all the time. Well, in spite of that, they will get noting but support and understanding from me.
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